Ep 115: Why You Need To Think of Yourself as a Rebel

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • Many of you live in a “straight jacket” or prison for how you think you need to “be” at work. You think you need to have a persona of someone who is always strategic, professional, and a thought leader.  This happens because you believe what society and corporate America have conditioned you to think is the best way to thrive and get ahead at work. 
  • The cost when you think this way is work feels hard, you’re less creative, and you’re more likely to feel the need to overwork. This happens because you’re denying the side of you that outside of work that is fun, tells jokes, and is a little goofy. 
  • How to think of yourself as a rebel who brings your whole bad*ss self to work. 

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When you put yourself in this “straight jacket” of what you think is expected at work you hide a big part of your true essence.

These hidden parts of you that are light, funny, and silly, feel sad and a sense of loss that they’re locked away in this proverbial prison.

I encourage you to be a rebel.

Oppose the fictional authority created in your mind that being silly, funny, goofy, fill in the blank the ways you’re judging yourself and saying, “that’s not professional”..... are true.

They’re fiction. These “stories” are not supporting you in being the bad*ss you already are.

Bring that fun, funny, silly, goofy, “fill in the blank” side of you to work TODAY.

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In St. Barts, thereʻs a candle brand out of NYC that is vegan and cruelty-free called Nomad Noe.

Inspired by little-known historical movers and shakers, each candle tells a story of courage and daring through exquisite blends of fragrance.

I fell in love with the scent called REBEL. Tuberose, gardenia, etc.

Here’s one of the reasons you experience feelings of emptiness, grief, and sadness.

You’re not being a REBEL.

The simple definition of rebel is to oppose the one in authority or control.

Now I’m not advocating getting fired or thrown in jail:-)

What I am suggesting is that you think about this.

Emptiness, grief, and sadness are clues you may be showing up at work acting in the way you THINK you should based on society's expectations.

I feel as an adult i have made these decisions like work, marriage that I have to manage and live with. She doesnt feel like life is fun anymore.

This is approved by society: Be smart, professional, and strategic

This is not approved: Don’t be silly, funny, or god forbid goofy.

When you put yourself in this “straight jacket” of what you think is expected at work you hide a big part of your true essence.

These hidden parts of you that are light, funny, and silly, feel sad and a sense of loss that they’re locked away in this proverbial prison.

You feel smaller.

Options are fewer now that I am an adult.

Think about those times and occassions when you felt alive. Married. College. Vacation. Be the watcher. How did you show up every day? General How did you feel?

I encourage you to be a rebel.

Oppose the fictional authority created in your mind that being silly, funny, goofy, "fill in the blank" the ways you’re judging yourself and saying, “that’s not professional”..... are true.

They’re fiction. These “stories” are not supporting you in being the bad*ss you already are.

Bring that funny, silly, goofy, “fill in the blank” side of you to work TODAY.

I encourage you to practice asking your brain each day this week, “how can I bring my funny side to work today?”

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Welcome to Rock Your Brain. Rock Your Life. The only podcast hosted by a high achieving tech entrepreneur and certified coach that teaches you how to use proven cognitive tools to rewire your brain and break through the second pandemic, burnout. If you lead a company or badass team and need a proven, evidence based cognitive course to retain and develop them, this podcast is for you.

Sarah helps humans break through burnout, have insane work life balance, and feel magical at work and in their lives again. Here's your host, certified coach and tech industry entrepreneur, Sarah Moody.

Sarah Moody: Hey, amazing humans. So happy to be with you this week. We are going to dive into why you need to think of yourself as a rebel. So here's the inspiration for this week's podcast. I was in St. Bart's last week with one of my girlfriends and. I love candles. Candles to mean mean light and love and purity, and they're just a beautiful inspiration for me.

So there's a candle brand outta New York that's vegan and cruelty free, and it's called Nomad Noé. And each candle is inspired by little known historical movers and shakers. So each candle tells a story of courage, and daring, and is exquisitely fragrant. Mine is called Rebel and it's like tuber rose, gardenia, like really yummy, sweet scents.

And so I fell in love with it and brought it home. And one of the reasons why I fell in love with it was because, it was such a reminder to me and to so many of my students and clients that we need to really rebel against what society has conditioned us to believe that is keeping us in a straight jacket.

And that straight jacket is one of the reasons you experience feelings of emptiness, grief, and sadness. So today I wanna talk about you not being a bit of a rebel in your life and how you show up is one of the reasons you're feeling some emptiness, grief, and sadness. So a simple definition of rebel is to oppose the one in authority or control.

And in this circumstance, what I'm talking about is society's beliefs. The patriarchy's beliefs you know what society says you should do and be. And now, okay, I'm not advocating getting fired or thrown in jail, what I am suggesting is that you think about this. Notice if you're feeling feelings of emptiness, grief, sadness.

These may be clues that you may be showing up at work, acting in the way you think you should, on society's expectations. So many of you are adults and you know, you've got these careers, and you're in relationships, and all the things, and there's this, this heaviness of like, life doesn't feel fun anymore.

I made all these decisions and now I have to live with them. And when I show up at work, I have to be smart and professional and strategic because this is what society has approved for me to show up in this way and what's not approved is like work being fun, you being silly, you being funny, you being, God forbid, goofy.

And when you put yourself in this, what I'm calling straight jacket of what you think is expected of you at work, you hide a big part of your true essence, right? Just visualize yourself not allowing that silly, funny, goofy, I mean, I'm kind of, I'm kind of funny and a little irreferent at work. When you hide that part of you, you're hiding the true essence of who you are.

These hidden parts of you that are light and funny and silly actually feel sad and a sense of loss and grief that they're locked away in this proverbial prison that you've concocted in your brain. That if I act this way at work, I'm gonna be okay and approved and get the next role and the next job promotion.

And if I don't, if I act silly, funnier, God forbid, goofy or a little irreverent, it's gonna be a terrible thing. Like terrible things are gonna happen to me at work. I'm not gonna be approved, I'm not gonna be respected. I'm not gonna be admired. And what happens when you hide parts of you that are authentically who you are and you lock them away in this prison, you start feeling small.

You start, you know, the shoulders get a little smaller. Your brains start shutting down. Options start feeling fewer when you put yourself in this proverbial straight jacket that I'm talking. Now I want you to think about the times and occasions in your life where you felt the most alive. You felt the most comfortable, you felt the most at ease.

You felt the most just at home in your body.

Was it maybe when you got married? Was it that weekend? Was it most of the time when you were at college? Was it when you were on that amazing vacation for that week? I want you to be the watcher and notice all those occasions when you felt the most effing alive. How did you show up every day? How did you feel?

Right? Did you show up at your wedding? Like being funny and silly and cracking jokes. Did you show up on that vacation feeling light, easy, breezy? If you did and you notice that that is not consistently a part of how you show up at work, I encourage you to be a rebel. To rebel against what your brain is telling you you should do, how you should show up.

I encourage you to oppose the fictional authority created in your brain; that being silly, funny, goofy, telling jokes, okay, fill in all the way you're judging yourself and saying that's not professional or true I want you to oppose that fictional authority in your brain cuz it's fiction. These stories are not supporting you in being the badass you already are.

You're a badass, all of you. The smart, professional, strategic thinker, leader, executive. The silly funny, tell jokes, goofy person. All of you needs to come to work today, and I encourage you to practice asking your brain each day this week, " How can I bring my silly, funny, goofy irreverent, fill in the blank side of me to work today. How can I drop this straight jacket that I've decided to put myself in that's keeping me small, that's keeping me noticing feelings of grief and sadness and loss."

How can I bring these sides of me out of this proverbial prison; that I bought into based on society's beliefs that are BS. How can I bring all of me to work today? Because when you bring all of you to work today and every day, you are the most creative, aligned, authentic, like all powerful human, in that office.

Okay. Lots to think about this week. Most importantly,

this is many reasons why I want you to start thinking of yourself as a bit of a rebel. All right? And if you're super curious about what I'm looking at right now, Just fire up the internet and go to nomad N O M A D, Noe, N oe nomad noe.com and you can see my rebel candle. All right, have a beautiful rest of your week and I'll talk to you soon.

Bye.

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